My wife and I literally met/bumped into each other at a reggae club in LA exactly 10 months before our twin boys were born. 11 years later, we find ourselves with a 3rd child/daughter and are still discovering little things about each other that we never fully got the chance to learn since we were running full speed from day 1. Thanks to the patience, empathy, and advice from Jessica/Emily, we were able to take a step back and really tried to hear one another out. They offered me, in particular, a unique glimpse into a female’s frame of reference that I could trust. I needed their additional input to understand what my wife had been expressing to me all along.
During the pandemic, we were in desperate need to reconnect as our relationship felt like it was going to end. With the calm and reassuring help Jessica/Emily provided, we are now happier and more connected than we’ve ever been.
Being in a committed relationship takes work. Both parties have to understand that and are in for the journey together. We tend to initially see things from our own lenses and look for faults in our partners to justify why it is ok to be upset with them. If instead we took the approach of seeing things that made us upset or disappointed as non-intentional but rather a misunderstanding, we have an opportunity to work on it to improve moving forward. Communicating with each other to genuinely try and understand the other person’s perspective is more productive than looking for the flaws in what the other is saying.
–Mo, LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA